Marriage is difficult enough without drugs and alcohol, but when you add substance abuse into the mix, it becomes almost impossible to survive. We’ve all heard stories of the ravages of drugs and alcohol on relationships – broken promises and broken hearts, lost jobs, money wasted, children neglected, homes and families destroyed, and even physical […]
It’s a good idea to periodically take an inventory of your relationship in order to see what’s working and what could use improvement. Rather than waiting until things break down, which usually leads to fighting and bruised feelings, it’s better to keep an eye on potential problems and catch them before they become too serious. […]
When it comes to infidelity, there are many ways that one partner can betray the other. Traditionally, most people have associated infidelity with physical betrayal, sleeping with another person, for example, whether or not there was an emotional connection between the partner and the new fling. However, research has shown that, beyond the physical monogamy […]
Despite constant reminders and decades of failed marriages to use as examples, the divorce rate in America still hovers above 50%. While 2:1 odds may be great in Vegas, they aren’t so fantastic when you are betting on your life. Getting married is a major commitment that doesn’t end when you say “I do”, it […]
When you are dealing with a rough patch in your relationship, seeking help through a couple’s therapist has become increasingly common. Not only are more people than ever seeking help with their relationships, more are open to speaking about it, normalizing the experience by removing the stigma. However, regardless of how “common” counseling has become, […]
The cliche that “opposites attract” is so rampant in relationship discourse that it is often just passed by. However, the idea that a seemingly mismatched pair of partners are actually perfect for one another is not only true anecdotally, but there is substantial psychological research to support it. While everyone’s definition of “Happily Ever After” […]
When their marriage is in jeopardy, many people are willing to do anything it takes to make things right, including couples counseling. However, in some relationships this is not the case. While we would all like to think that our solution to a problem (i.e. counseling) is a worthy one and that our relationship is […]
It’s not too late. I know that sounds trite, but in many cases, the hopelessness you feel surrounding your marriage, though all-consuming, does not have to be forever and does not have to end in divorce. In fact, there are real, actionable changes you can make in your relationship today to not only improve the […]
In the event that your relationship is in a bad position, the sort of inconvenience you don’t appear to have the capacity to deal with all alone, it may be time to search for an expert guide to offer assistance.
Helping your spouse solve his problem sometimes is not really the best approach. Are you providing the right support that he needs or are you just getting in the way?